Stubbornness

What Is the Cause of Stubbornness and How Does It Manifest? How Should We Deal with Stubborn People? To answer these questions, we must first understand the phenomenon of stubbornness.
Stubbornness is the insistence on a particular idea or stance, which may manifest in different ways at different times.
. It is not a disease but rather a behavior, which means it can be managed. However, it may become a disorder when accompanied by other issues such as paranoia, fear, or lack of self-confidence.
In many cases, part of the personality of a stubborn individual may not have fully developed, which can lead them to exhibit childish behaviors.
When interacting with such individuals, you may notice that they believe only their own opinion is correct and reject other perspectives or logic.
Is stubbornness innate and genetic?
No. A number of genetic factors can underlie this type of behavior, but stubbornness is not hereditary or innate, but rather a mechanism that humans use.
These people have very low self-confidence, which is why they are afraid that if they give up their position and take on another position, they will not be able to cope with new circumstances. Therefore, they prefer to stand by their position. In other words, these people are afraid of facing new issues.

Self-confidence is a problem for stubborn people. Stubborn people try to focus their authority and power on one issue and insist on that issue in order to somehow cover up their low self-confidence.
If you are aware that people’s stubbornness is due to their inadequacy, low self-esteem, and lack of self-confidence, your way of dealing with stubborn people will naturally change. Also, if you have the skills to criticize and accept criticism, you will have the skills to choose the right behavior when you are criticized by these people.
One way to deal with these people is to remain silent. Silence does not mean approval, but rather not to argue with them, because arguing with stubborn people only fuels their existential flames.
Stubborn people are not situationalists. In other words, these people sometimes act stubbornly in situations that may destroy their own lives and even the lives of others.
The way to deal with a stubborn person is to be aware of the situation.
A stubborn person will accept your words and gradually the flames of his stubbornness will fade and be extinguished when he finds a phenomenon in you called goodness-seeking. Therefore, you must find their good qualities by goodness-seeking in the dark parts of their personality and introduce them to themselves.
Stubborn people have a pessimistic view when discussing and talking with others because they fear that their character will be questioned, but with kindness and affirmation, trust can be built in them so that they feel that the purpose of the discussion and conversation is not to destroy them in any way.
You should never use the word “you” or any assertive language for these people. This style of expression can irritate them and pave the way for stubbornness to flare up. Therefore, in the face of stubborn people, you can use the seasoning of silence, tolerance, goodwill, approval, expressing positive points, situational analysis, and criticism appropriately, and to some extent push the person towards mental and emotional balance so that he does not harm himself.